“Do you want to be right or happy?”
I remember the first time I heard that, something stirred in me like there was something very valuable in what it said, but my immediate response was, “I want both! Why can’t I have both?”
As I’ve explored more how life works and the nature of the mind, I’ve taken on a very different attitude. I’ve seen that when I want to be right, about anything really, I’m quite firmly positioned in my personal thinking: what I believe and what I want. I’m not very open or considerate. I’m really pretty stuck and can get defensive and even angry about wanting it my way.
As I’ve explored more how life works and the nature of the mind, when I see what’s happening in my life just as it is, without my personal beliefs and desires coloring it, I’m pretty happy. I find myself in a flow with life instead of holding a defensive posture. That is so much nicer.
And, I don’t feel happy all the time. Things happen in the world and in my life that make me sad. But when I see the event just for what it is, there’s a bittersweet joy or appreciation in the perfection of how it has all come to be. The bittersweet experience of being human.
I can be sad now, without it having to change. And that makes me happy.